Sunday, 9 October 2011

All you need is a link

    An elderly man and a youngster were waiting for the bus. It was a long
    wait and both were impatient to reach their destinations. Finally the
    bus arrived jampacked. It seemed that there was place for only one
    more person to squeeze in. The young man thought to himself, "I am
    busy. The old man is hardly likely to have anything important to do.
    So I should take the bus first."  At the same time, the old man
    thought, "I am old. The youth has the stamina to wait longer. So I
    should get in first." They both edged to the front and as the bus
    stopped, they began jostling one another. In the middle of their
    argument, the bust left and they were left behind.

              In the course of their altercation, the young man said, "Who
    do you think I am! I am the son of Mr. Lalchand, the rice merchant. My
    car broke down today and my father had already left by then. There is
    an auto-rickshaw  strike today. So I was forced to take a bus. It is
    indeed my
    ill luck that I had to meet someone like you!" As soon as the old
    heard these worlds, his scowl faded and in its place emerged a broad
    smile. He said, "Then you must be Harish! I am so glad to see you.
    What a small world it is! I am Hirachand, your father's uncle. Back in
    our village, we are so proud of your father for making it big in
    Delhi." The minute Harish heard there words he immediately apologized
    to Hirachand. The old man brushed aside the apology graciously.

              When the next bus came, the story was delightfully
    different! The Hirachand said, "Get in. You are already late. I will
    take the next bus!  Harish replied, "No, uncle. It is hot today. You
    must be tired. You take the bus. I will get into the next one!"

              *In the above story, initially the old man and the youth
    were mutually hostile. What happened to change the situation?  Nothing
    actually happened in terms of a physical event. When they realized
    that they were related, both of them experienced a sense of identity,
    a feeling of oneness.

    The same two people in the same situation underwent a tangible change
    in attitude. Each was willing to give up his chance to board the bus
    for the sake of the other. Each one felt that the other was "his so-
    and-so" and this realization alone was enough to change a hostile
    situation to a friendly, loving one! The feeling of oneness lightens
    many problems and soothes many a ruffled feather in human relations.*

    *          In our lives too, we miss out on joy friendship and love
    because we do not give ourselves a chance to feel for others as we
    would for ourselves and our families. We forgive ourselves very easily
    for our faults or for those of our families, but how critical and
    unforgiving we are when
    it comes to others' faults! What makes the difference? It is lack of
    oneness with others that is born of a narrow vision of life.*

    *          To love others, to see them in ourselves and to feel for
    their joys and sorrows as we would our own gives a sense of oneness.
    It gives us the ability to enjoy the happiness of others and work to
    alleviate their suffering. This is the first step towards a life of
    true beauty and

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